It’s okay to ask for help when you need it. That’s why humans exist as a population/community rather than individually. No human evolved as a lone wolf. We all evolved as a pack and it’s ingrained in our DNA to be pack members and help one another and protect each other.

I know that some days I feel really strong and I can support my partner with whatever he needs. Other times, I’m the one that needs the extra hand. It’s one of the great things of a relationship or strong friendship. You love the other person enough and have a solid foundation enough to take turns supporting each other when it’s needed. Some days your partner will need you to put in 90% because they can only put in 10%. Eventually there’ll be a balance of 50/50 again when both parties are supported and stable.

The goal of any relationship isn’t to put equal effort and exhaust yourself on the days you can’t wholeheartedly put in 50%. The goal of any two people dedicating themselves to a relationship is to unconditionally support and love one another and understanding that we all have our bad days, or weeks. And still being there to support the other with understanding and love. Without judgment, frustration, or anger.

You are always allowed to ask for help from others when you need it.