You can have the exact same situation with two different people and the outcomes can be completely different just because of how different people think.

A friend of mine is going through the exact same internal feelings that K is and he isn’t trying to call it quits with his girlfriend. Instead, he realized that his struggle was internal and a balancing act rather than a problem with the relationship.

Hearing different perspectives really opens up my eyes because I see how other people handle the situation.

It really wasn’t fair to me that he never tried to balance all of his hobbies. Instead, he rushed to call the relationship the problem and was ready to throw it all away. Which makes me think, do I want a partner that is so willing to just drop the relationship and run without a second thought? Without even considering other possibilities before calling it quits? I can understand why he’s programmed this way from his past relationships as mentioned before. But for sone reason his mind doesn’t let him process anything else besides “all in or nothing.” Why is there not an in-between for him? Why is there no room for boundaries for him? Why do only two extremes exist in his head? What we are doing now is a relationship. Talking to each other openly, planning dates when we want to see each other, taking our own time to be our own individuals as well. What we are doing now is a relationship, except he refuses to see it that way. He doesn’t want to call what we’re doing right now a relationship, as if this is nothing different than a friend. I know I am more than just a friend. His reason was that going into this break, he wanted to work on himself then be in a relationship. For some reason, he doesn’t think he can do both at the same time even though that is exactly what he is doing now. Is it wrong that I finally convinced him to be open to the perspective that what we are doing now is a relationship? Is it wrong that I had to convince him to call this a relationship? Am I pathetic for attempting to save this rather than just dumping him and moving on? I’ve been through my fair share of relationships and nothing has been so difficult nor has made me stoop to these pathetic levels before. None of my relationships before have brought me to my knees trying to make it work. Almost all of my past relationships, I was the one who dropped the guy and just moved on. Why is he so special now? It’d be so much easier if I just didn’t feel so deeply for him.