Everything about life is an addiction, especially love, and you just have to learn how to cope with the withdrawal.

Ending relationships are never easy, be it a romantic or platonic relationship. Relationships end because there are no longer benefits for either party. The only way to not hurt the other person in the process is if they realize that too, which is difficult because everyone processes and thinks differently. What you see as obvious may not be what they see and the further you try to push an opinion as fact onto an opposing mind, the harder things get. Things do eventually come into realization, but that takes time.

It’s known that the more time you spend with a specific person, the more comfortable you become with them and the more alike you two become. You begin picking up small habits like saying a specific word or doing a specific action you’ve never done prior to spending a lot of time with them. Humans are social creatures and we assimilate with other humans we enjoy being with. We build relationships with other people because of the common goal that the relationship makes both parties feel good. And that’s why it hurts so much when that path is no longer a linear slope. Once one party begins to feel out of touch, it’s hard to rebuild past that plateau. It’s easier to go downhill than it is to climb uphill.

Once your body becomes attuned to a specific person, it’s difficult for the body to go without that specific chemical. Every human releases pheromones and some pheromones may make you feel good while others don’t. If your body is suddenly no longer receiving a specific pheromone, it’s like a withdrawal from a specific chemical. It’s an addiction and addictions come with withdrawal periods.

But know that although there are withdrawal periods, once you get through that withdrawal, things become easier. Things become clearer. You realize you can survive without that drug.

And that’s one thing that’s unfortunate when you know the end is near. You know you’ll be fine, after the withdrawal/break up, but it’s the actual process of withdrawal/breaking up that hurts and we cannot fast forward through. The withdrawal period in itself will teach you things that you wouldn’t learn elsewhere. How to be independent again, because things may have changed within and externally from the last time you were independent. How to shift your love from another person back to completely within yourself. Life is a learning curve and it comes with its addictions, withdrawals, and challenges. But they make you who you are.

I am not an expert in physiology, biology, etc. I am only applying what I’ve learned in my prior education and the facts may have changed since then or I may be remembering it incorrectly. Either way, do not take my words as facts when it comes to biological processes.