Why does everyone keep asking me this question? Isn’t the better question, “Are you safer now?” or “Are you happier now?”

He had always been half in-half out about being with me. We were already taking a break because he couldn’t figure out what he wanted. I finally got tired of being treated like a side thought. I initiated the break up. I asked him whether he was going to try for this relationship or not be a part of my life anymore. We had already discussed that we could not be friends if we weren’t in a relationship because he kept interfering with my past relationships while friends. He chose to not try anymore (as if he was trying in the first place anyway). I demanded my keys back and gave his belongings back that were left in my apartment. I knew he wasn’t going to keep trying. I knew he wouldn’t know what he wanted, and the safer choice was to not hinder me anymore. He may have made the choice, but I already knew what his choice would be and popped the question. I knew it was the end and I made sure it was the end, rather than him wanting to break up but continuing to come back like he always did because he just didn’t know.

Not that it matters, but I’m tired of being asked this question as if it matters. He drove drunk with me in the car. Isn’t that enough rationale?