There are only very specific circumstances in which I can be friends with an ex:

1. It was a fairly immature relationship which we both acknowledge, apologize for, forgive each for, and move on.

2. I messed up & feel awful and he forgives me and wants to still keep in touch.

These circumstances have only happened twice in my life in relationships that started and ended before college. Every relationship onward I have been irreparably hurt and cannot be looked past. Therefore, it makes me upset to see any ex’s name pop up in my current life because it brings up past traumas. I have been in many traumatic and toxic relationships in which I would like to cease and desist all communications and sightings of said ex-person. I would like to move on past all of these tragedies in my life and live my life happily.

The only thing I will tolerate is direct communication. If you have something to say to me, say it. If not, stop lurking. I don’t want you stalking me, checking up on me, asking my friends and family about me, etc. It is no longer your business to keep tabs on me and I will tell you that directly if I ever see you lurking on me.