You don’t know what interpersonal traits you need to work on until someone else tells you. You yourself cannot detect when you are being cruel, heartless, or ignorant of someone else’s feelings. You cannot detect when you hurt someone else. You don’t realize these things until the other party tells you. You don’t know when you have sociopathic traits until someone else points them out to you.

If you truly want to work on yourself, you will pay attention to what other people tell you and how you’ve hurt them. You will be perceptive to when they are telling you of these instances so you can catch it in the moment and correct it. Ignoring it, being defensive/stubborn, or acting like the other person is just attacking you doesn’t help anything – especially yourself.

You can live your life in ignorance, but you will not grow. You can live your life believing other people are too sensitive, but maybe the problem isn’t them. Maybe the problem is you if it’s consistently happening.

Many people won’t see the emotional side of you unless they are in an intimate relationship with you. Pay attention to what an intimate partner tells you.